Answer: My age.
I just had a birthday this month. And among the many good wishes, for which I am grateful, were two cards that, in different ways, implied that I just might be ready for large old lady underpants.
Another card took a different tack. It featured a gutsy older woman, wearing an oversized pink madras plaid camp shirt, about to get on a razor scooter. I say gutsy not only because she was about to get on the scooter, but also because she was wearing that shirt.
This made me wonder if I received any cards like that last birthday, so I looked. One from last year featured platform heels. Another showed a woman wearing leopard print (not well, but with a certain panache.) A third said, “In France they have 3 words for women like you – ooh la la!” And another showed a picture of Michelangelo’s David with birthday candles covering his crotch, implying that I might be inclined to blow.
But no industrial strength underwear. So what changed this year?
It got me musing about age and some of its many ramifications.
I teach college students, one of whom I recently overheard to say, “OMG, I’m going to be 25 on my next birthday, I’m SO OLD!” I wanted to slap her silly little estrogen-poufed face, but instead I just smiled indulgently, as one does with a child, and congratulated myself on the restraint that comes with age and maturity. Clearly she has no clue yet as to the jowls, gingivitis and dry vagina that are waiting around some future corner.
When one of my friends called to wish me happy birthday, we were both congratulating and lamenting our respective years, and she asked if I had ever known my grandmothers. I said yes, one of them. She asked, “And when she was the same age as you, how did she compare in vibrancy and youthfulness?” I had to admit that, as much as I loved her, at my age she had neither. Even at 10 years younger than I am now, she was roly-poly, had thinning gray hair in no particular style, and wore dumpy housedresses and sensible shoes. Even worse, she did not have much of a life. She cleaned, visited her son and granddaughters, watched TV and wrote letters to her remaining sisters. Once she had been married to a handsome doctor, had worn furs, collected antiques and invited people to her stately home. But her husband had died, and the house had been sold. The friendships had died too or faded away. She had no current hobbies or interests to speak of.
Then my friend asked me what I did to celebrate my birthday. Well, first I had a karaoke party with about 10 friends. I wore tights and a sheer top, drank martinis and sang Nina Simone (not well, but with a certain panache.)
Next I went shopping for some new dance shoes. I got two pairs of salsa shoes, both with 3” Cuban heels and straps that daintily criss-cross the ankles – one in bronze satin with scalloped edges and the other a peekaboo black leather.
Then I went to a party for another friend. I wore a flowing black hi-lo skirt that swirled when I twirled in those bronze satin shoes. I drank wine and danced for hours.
Finally, I got a massage from an attractive black masseur. He delicately asked if I wanted my “glutes” massaged, and I said sure. I noticed he hovered there for awhile, and then he said, “You keep yourself in nice shape.” I do exercise, but admittedly not as much as I should. Yet I had a feeling he wasn’t picturing me in granny panties.
“Now,” my friend asked, “could you imagine your grandmother celebrating her birthday that way at your age?” I had to admit I could not.
It’s true that my panties have gotten bigger over the years, and now include some Spanx-like support garments. (Though I wanted to like Spanx, they just flatten my ass. Support is supposed to mean “lift and separate,” not “flatten”!) But I also still own some thongs and lacy tangas. Mostly I just go commando because, well, I’m a commando. Or an aging hippie. Or too lazy to do the laundry. Or all three.
I don’t resent the people who gave me the granny panty cards. On the contrary, I’m lucky to have friends who want to celebrate my birthday. I’m fortunate to be healthy and have enough of what I need, and grateful that I still want to get off the couch and sing and dance, drink wine, enjoy life and lick the spoon.*
But the friend who gave me the pink plaid shirt card? Well, the irony is that I don’t own such a shirt, BUT SHE DOES! Along with the MATCHING BERMUDA SHORTS!
I’m signing off now. I’m heading over to her place where I will find that shirt and shorts and burn them. Not only as a favor to my friend, who is still youthful and vibrant herself and deserves better. But also as a public service to the rest of us.
*Licking the Spoon is my metaphor for living life with gusto. In my book in progress about food, sex and relationship, I talk about how to remain youthful, sexy and vibrant at any age.
Thanks for the smiles. Age is only a number. I an going on 75 still wearing my binkni. Grandma must be turning over in her grave.
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Or maybe she’s a little jealous, Penny… 🙂
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I liked how women should be comfortable wearing any kind of underwear and not worrying about their age 🙂
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Thanks Magaly! I do too!
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Cute article. Has panache:-)!
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Thank you, Barbara! I’m glad you enjoyed it. 🙂
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Loved the article. In defense of granny panties, on a recent tv doctor show the topic came up
about what kind of panties were better for your health and guess the answer—cotton, full size
undies. OK, not the sexiest look but my girl parts are happier if I wear them. Want to reduce
stress, get some plaid seersucker! No iron, pull it out of the dryer and go, and so bright and cheery! Just make sure your friends don’t steal it.
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And make sure that it never appears in a photograph, Fran! 🙂 As for the happy girl parts, it’s true that some women are prone to yeast infections, and wearing loose cotton undies can let our ‘self-cleaning ovens’ (one of my metaphors for the female vulva) do their thing. But I think every woman should have her stash of sexy undies, too. One of the friends who gave me a granny panty card added a quote from Dorothy Parker: “Brevity is the soul of lingerie.”
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P.S. Loved the picture.
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Thank you! That was the first original photo I’ve used. Yes, those drawers came from my very own drawer… 🙂
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LoL! My girlfriend once jokingly told me that a girl’s last birthday is when she turns 29. Haha. I never quite understood why, but I would assume it is because 30 sounds way older than 29 even though its only 1 year apart. It is nice to see you embrace your age and embrace life as is.
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Gary, for many, when they’re young it’s 29, and when they get older it’s 49 (again, like you say, because it sounds so much younger even though it’s only a year!) I agree with you that the important thing is to embrace it. There’s no way to stop it, so why not?
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Those insights were interesting for me to think of as a 20 year-old. After reading this I realize I have a lot to mature on 😀
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Continue the positive outlook and Happy Late Birthday!
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Thank you! I will try to do just that! 🙂
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You only know what you can know at a given age, Devin. And later you look back and sometimes say, ‘how could I have thought that?’ It’s natural. Maturity will come! 🙂
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I loved this article ! age is nothing more than a number and it’s great to embrace your age , no matter what that may be (;
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I’m glad you enjoyed it! You’re right about embracing where we are, because there isn’t much we can do about it! (;
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Loved the article! your stuff is really interesting! 🙂
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I’m glad you’re enjoying it. Hope you keep reading! 🙂
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great article 🙂 You look really young!! Plus it is true age is just a number. I recently turned 21 but I have not started to believe that I am old like some friends have!!!
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Thank you for the compliment. I’m glad you realize how young you are! And that people can remain youthful even as they get older.
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HILARIOUS!
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Thank you Veronica! I hope you continue to enjoy my humor. 🙂
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Hello! Nelda Burgos here from your Human Sexuality class TWTH. Your article made me laugh! I do have to say I love granny pannies. When it comes to lingerie i’m so boring I think it reflects the way I am about sex. I’m learning to be more open minded but it is hard. I have gained more confidence with having changing my diet and exercise.
I truly am enjoying class but on the other hand I am reading/seeing a lot of things that make me feel uncomfortable. I hope that by the end of winter session there will be a whole new light on the subject of sex and intimacy.
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Nelda, I think it takes courage to face something that makes you uncomfortable. And I think I can guarantee that you WILL feel more comfortable by the end of the semester! 🙂
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I’ll admit, I’m one of those students that complain they’re getting old and I’m not even 21 yet 😛 I think it’s acceptable at any age to receive granny panty birthday cards, wearing them is a different matter. I honestly think you’re as young as you feel or in my case as old as you feel. Great post! 🙂
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Nicole, 21, you crack me up! Of course you’re older than you were at 17 (10, 4, fetus!), but puh-leeze! I’m sure you’ve heard this before, but you have your whole life ahead of you! Whereas most of my life is behind me, but guess what – it’s been a great ride! Hope yours is, too.
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This article made me laugh from stiletto pumps to granny panties. Personally I like getting older. Another year is another opportunity to explore and live. Age I can’t imaging holding you back. I have seen wrinkly grey haired old men and woman run 3K races faster than me as a runner in high school. It would be amazing watching them pass me by as I was catching my breath. I have no doubt that a person can live a very long time able and active. I think aging is awesome, it bugs me when woman dye their hair because they see gray. I think gray hair is beautiful. When a man has gray hair he is wise and so on, but with a woman its she is too old all of a sudden. Well I digress from this double standard.
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Yes, Marisol, there certainly is a double standard for women and men about getting older. I’m glad you have such a good attitude about it, and that I made you laugh. 🙂
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I am one of those students that complain about getting old even though I am only 20. But when it comes to granny panties I have nothing against it, I actually think they are the most comfortable.This article was really interesting and had me laughing.
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Feeling old at 20! That sounds crazy to me! But it proves it’s a matter of perspective – you are old compared to how you were at 10. Just be glad that hopefully you have so much more to come, even wearing granny panties!
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Age is all in the mind. You can be young no matter how old you are!
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I agree with you Mason! And the opposite as well – you can be old before your time!
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Most adults grumble and complain about getting older. They would prefer not to be reminded of how old they are with a cake filled of a wide stack of candles. So I wonder how we would “feel” like if we did not know how old we actually are. Would it make a difference? I certainly think so.
The only time we are actually excited about getting older is when we are still young. We even think in fractions! “How old are you?” “FOUR AND A HALF”. But once we get older we say “hit 40 or even reached 50”. I think people stress out way too much about their age! Instead they should rather enjoy life to the fullest. Your article is hilarious, definitely made me laugh, and I do agree with you that there is no age limit in doing the things one loves or in even wearing sexy underwear. However, I have to admit that my mom received one of those cards before too, but just because I think they are pretty funny 🙂
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I think you’re right, Kat, about the young yearning to reach that older age, and the older going the opposite direction. What an interesting idea, us not knowing our ages. Ultimately I agree that enjoying life is what matters. Those cards are funny because there is some truth in humor.
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I do not think women at any age should become eligible to receive granny panty birthday cards, but the society is pushing every women to receive granny panty birthday cards at certain age. If you ask me if a women should wear a bikini at 80’s year old, i would have answered No even I know the answer should be yes. People made society and society made people. Therefore, I do follow the society since I can not changed meanwhile I really hate that I have to follow the society. However, even many people do say No on women at certain age should become eligible to receive granny panty birthday cards, but I do believed in their mind their answer is yes.
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Bikinis at 80! That’s cute, Jeremy! I would say why not if the woman wants to.
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Professor, you are so awesome! I admire your fashion sense and would never dare to defy that by sending you granny panties on your birthday. Keep wearing what makes you feel good, you are an inspiration to all future granny panty worriers!(:
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Thank you! 🙂
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I can’t help but think you feel a little offended at the granny panty gesture. I know girls around my age that have worn that type of undergarment lol. You are the age you feel right? So if you feel as if you’re not at the granny panty age yet, you’re not.
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As long as I don’t feel old, that’s what’s important Yosio!
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This article had me laughing especially when you said you wanted to “slap” that young girl claiming 25 is “OLD.” I enjoy reading your articles, they keep me entertained!
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Of course I would not slap them, Ronnie. It’s fun to be young, and then nature will get us all in the end anyway. “No one gets out alive.”
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I love this article because it reminds me of my mom, who is in her 60s. Whenever we go shopping at Victoria’s Secret, she always ends up buying bikinis and lacy underwear!
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Good for your mom! Remember in the film Untold Desires, the disabled woman wanted to wear sexy undies? And why not!
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I have to echo what Nicole says, “it’s acceptable at any age to receive granny panty birthday cards, wearing them is a different matter.” I can’t help, but judge people at the beach when they wear something that’s…not flattering!
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And we’ve all seen those internet posts about the Walmart shoppers in revealing outfits! I guess we all have to do what pleases us, and some will like it and some won’t.
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I think that as long as your friends have a good sense of humor then a Granny Pantie birthday card is appropriate. In fact, when I turned 21 this past summer, my best friend gave me a birthday card that said over the hill with an old lady in granny panties and a dragging bra (I still have it and it puts a smile on my face when I look at it). I thought it was hilarious and ironic, since she turned 21 about 6 months before I did, but I’m the one always complaining that I am getting old. I suppose I feel this way because all of my friends are in relationships, have children, finishing their careers, or thinking of getting married or already are… and I’m have not reached those points in my life yet, it’s like I’m falling behind somehow.
Your article made me think of the cliche question, ‘boxers or briefs?’ Do undergarments really contribute to one’s sexuality or sex appeal?
Honestly, ‘granny panties’ are the most comfortable, but every once in a while when dressing up professionally or to go dancing a little lace trimmed underwear makes you feel prettier 🙂
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Thank you for your thought-provoking comments! I think what contributes most to one’s sexuality is to feel comfortable in your skin and wear whatever makes you feel good at a given time.
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I admire your youthfulness Lynda, we all need to take your advice and never grow old, we are all spring chickens!!! Lol!!!
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Somebody will probably have to tie me to my rocking chair when the time comes, because I will still want to be having fun!
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See that’s why I like you so much, you are sooo giddee!!
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Haha Nicholas!
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I just love your personality and confidence Lynda! This was so cute and made me laugh. PS: Spanks make my ass look flat too! LOL
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I’m glad to know I’m not the only one who has trouble with Spanx! Confidence comes with age and experience – and if you’re open to becoming who you are. It’s fun to share a more casual side with my students through this blog.
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It’s true that age is depend on how you see and portray yourself, not depending on how old you actually are. Lynda, I don’t think you will ever need granny panties because you are positive, energetic, and vibrant inside out.
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Thank you, Kelly – and how mature of you to realize that a woman’s vibrancy is much more important than her age!
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I really love this article. It was funny. I had liked what Kelly Q said and it is very true. I personally think women should wear whatever underwear they are comfortable with either it is sexy or not. I liked the picture of the bra and underwear, I don’t think it is old, it is a sexy look. Well with those birthday cards someday it will come around for these young women, but if it is same age, as long as they are cool about it. Enjoy your age Lynda. Don’t let women haters get to you, there’s women out there that are Cool about it. No one is this world is getting any younger, everybody is getting older either we like it or not.
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I really enjoyed this article and you are so right, you need to embrace your age and live your life. I think age is how you see and portray yourself. I hope when I reach your age I am as lively and vibrant as you are!
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I hope so too, and I think you will be!
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I love this article. This actually had my mom laughing because she wears granny panties! LOL. And to be honest, so do I! Personally, I don’t think their’s anything wrong with wearing granny panties. They’re comfortable, smug, and very reliable, and they are a MUST when you’re on your fucking period. 😀 And I honestly thought it was cool that you wanted to slap that 25 year old at school because I don’t think you’re old Professor. You’re right where you need to be.
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Hurtling toward death? Just kidding! I plan to have many more years! I think it’s great you shared this with your mom.
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To me, age is just a number. You are only as old as you act!
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And as your health permits you to be!
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I absolutely love how youthful and full of life you are!.you are very inspirational !you do not look your age at all! I have to admit that at 20 years of age I too say I’m old like that girl. I know it’s dumb but I think I feel that way because I am a mother and I feel that way. Loved this post!
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You may be a mother, but you can still remain youthful! I hope to be that kind of role model for young people.
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Age is nothing but a number your as old as you feel.
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Sometimes I feel a little old LOL, but not usually.
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LOL really had fun reading this one. “Clearly she has no clue yet as to the jowls, gingivitis and dry vagina that are waiting around some future corner. probably the funniest line to me. haha
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Believe me, I never thought about these things when I was young, either, Brian!
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Hilarious article ! I must add I don’t seem to like age appropriate undergarments , in fact I love the idea of granny panties haha. That’s not weird right ?
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No, that’s not weird at all! 😉
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Age is what you make it out to be you act old of course you are going to feel old you act young you will feel young,so act the age you want to feel.
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That’s good advice!
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Enjoyed the article thanks for the giggles. But i think that age dosnt have anything to do with it as long as your comfortable going commando thats all that matters hahah.
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I bet it’s hard for 20-somethings to imagine a 60-something going commando! Haha!
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“Clearly she has no clue yet as to the jowls, gingivitis and dry vagina that are waiting around some future corner.”
Omg. This line worried me a little.. But, interesting and funny article!
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Sad but true: None of us can avoid aging. But we age more gracefully I think if we spend just as much attention on our brains, health and relationships as on our looks.
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Great article! I am hoping I become one of those women that gets better with age. I am looking forward to overcoming new obstacles now that I am a little older and wiser.
I still think you look great, whether or not you have Granny panties 🙂
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This post had me giggling all the way through! I just turned 23 and have been saying how old I feel the last couple weeks…. Now I know not to mention this in class or you just might “slap my silly little estrogen-poufed face!” LOL oh my gosh, I laughed so hard at that!
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I’m glad. It was fun to write! Not that I would do it. 🙂
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I enjoy that you were so honest and I believe that most people don’t like to have birthdays because they know that soon the “jowls, gingivitis and dry vagina” might be awaitng them so they have a fear of aging. This article was yet again very funny and it was a pleasure to read.
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Aging happens to every one of us, Nabil, but I must admit that when I was young I didn’t think much about it.
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This article is awesome! I actually laughed out loud a couple of times. I honestly can’t relate personally because I am only 21 and I don’t wear granny panties but I do hope that I can remain as spirited as you have throughout the years. 🙂
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If I make someone laugh out loud, that’s great! Humor is such a fun tool. Thank you!
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Age is Just a number its really how you feel about yourself. That being said I’m 24 and old lol but that’s due to the physical strain i put on my body with sports and my reckless behavior. However, as a man I firmly believe people should wear what makes them feel and look great. Lynda you look stunning at your age and I say do whatever you want because its working
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Thank you! A woman always loves a compliment! And there is still plenty of time to work on healing your body as well.
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I truly do look up to older women that still got it, and to be honest look better then they did when they were younger. I believe the more positive and fun outlook you have about getting older the younger you will stay. Great article!
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I love your honesty! Screw panties! These babies need to breathe fresh air.
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That’s right, Beah! So nature’s self-cleaning oven can work!
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This article was really fun to read. I love how your so open!
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It’s confidence, Bobby – which comes with age.
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Great article, loved it!
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I’m so glad!
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Granny panties! haha pshh, i’m going to be wearing sexy lingerieon my death bed 😉 haha just kidding… maybe.. good article!
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I agree Rena!
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The comment about the 25 year old girl claiming to be old is pretty funny to me. I remember thinking the same thing only because i kept telling myself that it meant that I was half way to 50. Im a few years older now and even closer to 50 but I do not feel any different. I decided age how you feel and act not a number. Bring it on! As long as Im still capable of having a sex life that is…
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I remember echoing that same young woman’s thought, too, and yours about 25 being halfway to 50. Boy is that all in perspective for me now! I am more than halfway to dead!
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My answer is at any age! I just got one for my 21st birthday! :p
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Oh that’s funny Jessica!
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I really enjoyed reading this article! It made my day! Age is nothing but a number. The important thing is to be yourself!
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I’m reading your comment a little late, but it made my day! Thanks!
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